• abracaDavid@lemmy.today
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    12 hours ago

    I recently read one where the wife was on her laptop and ignoring her husband when he asked her to look at something. So he flicked a lighter in her face, and then she slapped him in his face.

    90% of the comments said that she was completely justified in hitting this guy in the face and that she should divorce him.

    Anyone saying that you can’t just hit people in the face was down voted to hell.

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    15 hours ago

    Lmao I’ve actually done just that before, swapping the genders of a previous post, and people do say the complete opposite even though it’s the same situations.

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      It’s also not even just the genders. Copy/paste the text, wait a few days, and then when you make the post you can also ‘prime’ the situation by having a few immediate posts leaning one way or the other.

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    17 hours ago

    Yeah they just don’t act like thus stereotypical over there.

    Also, “femoid”?

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      i think femoid might mean a feminist who goes overboard and instead of equality, believes that women should have more rights than men

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        No, it’s a term to dehumanize women they don’t agree with. Don’t be stupid and explain how there are good people on the incel side.

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          oh ok. thats why i said “i think it might mean etc” and not “it means etc” but thanks for explaining anyway.

          also how was that explaining there are good people on the incel side? what does that even mean?

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        It’s just what they call women because women aren’t people in their eyes. Classic neckbeard sexist shit.

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      16 hours ago

      I’m pretty sure most stories are made up too. They just seem so well written with no grammatical errors or anything.

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        Wasn’t there some trend of people wanting to make self-driving cars take into account ethics in their decision making in emergencies, by having some website where people could pretty much solve trolley problems, with just a conductor in the trolley to also take into account some years ago? I’m imagining them scraping that subbredit for answers to questions like “AITA for having run over 2 orphan children in order to save 6 old ladies?”

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    21 hours ago

    Yes, he’d be an asshole for giving her them as a birthday present, regardless of the fact that he got her other presents as well. Just ask her if she wants them after he gets his new ones.

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      16 hours ago

      This is actually what the consensus was in that post, but the 4channer was blinded by his own assumption of “men bAD, gIRls gOoD” rhetoric

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    I’m gonna go ahead and hope that neither those redditors nor those channers ever find Lemmy

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        It may or may not be. I can’t speak to that post, but I’ve seen others pull the same bit with other posts (wait a week or two and repost with a gender swap, then point to the radical difference in response) and usually the gender swapped version gets deleted and the poster banned when it comes out.

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          Yeah always had a good chuckle at the people that would try to point out the echo chamber hypocrisy in a subreddit and be upvoted but yelled at so hard then banned.

          Same story every time.

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        I does have a certain “and then the whole bus clapped” energy to it.

        Good thing they left reddit and went to 4chan where they could get away from ultra thirsty guys acting all kinds of crazy over women.

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    I do think the age changes it. If it’s an 18 year old guy asking about his girlfriend, I also would be like, “hey, that may be a bit much. Old ones are fine.” cause they’re young. The expectations are lower. If it’s an adult woman asking this for her husband, I would say to not give it on their birthday. “Hey, here’s my old pair. Happy birthday” may be a bit flippant, but saying, “Hey, I got a new pair, want my old one?” doesn’t seem like a bad deal.

    Also, we didn’t see the post. Maybe the other gifts were also bad. Not saying that AITA isn’t a dumpster fire. But he changed the factors and didn’t give us all the information.

    Edit: I just saw the post. He bought her airpods a few years ago and, with how he’s talking, it sounds like he got his around the same time. His wife’s are glitching and just generally failing, but his used ones are fine. He says she takes care of them as with the rest of her things. He has the option to get free, new pair. Yeah, that is kind of dickish. “Here’s my old headphones that could very well be on their way out as well and have been worn for x years. Please enjoy while I get my brand new set that I’ve openly told you I don’t need. Happy birthday.”

    If this wasn’t her birthday, fine. But on the day? That kind of fucked imo

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    AmITheAsshole is 99% rage bait and fan fiction. “Am I the Asshole for letting my wife only sleep with 8 different guys, while cucking myself and paying everything for her? I’m totally unsure if I’m, in this Ludacris Situation in which I’m clearly being abused, being unreasonable… PLS BE NICE, GIVE ME ATTENTION! PLS PLS PLS PLS PLS PLS!!!”

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      Hot take: AITA (and even moreso those “Reddit Stories” channels on TikTok and YouTube) is just The Jerry Springer Show for Gen Z.

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      Are you, like, buying a new spoon every time you want to eat? Are you unfamiliar with the concept of cleaning?

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        In their defense, properly cleaning headphones is kinda hard, especially wireless earbuds.

        Source : Used to work at an electronics repair shop that cleaned stuff, and even clean ‘looking’ (aka externally clean) headphones can have some disgusting junk on the inside.

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          But the outside part covers the inside and is the only part that goes inside. The inside is still inside while being inside your ear protecting the inside of your ear from the inside of the earbud.

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            If you look at pretty much all earphones and earbuds, you’ll see they have a screen mesh where the sound comes out. You can remove this mesh (depending on the device, it might take some effort), and very often you’ll find an accumulation of earwax. I had a pair of Galaxy Buds+ that I needed to clean when I noticed the sound was unusually low.

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              Exactly! ‘My headphones are so quiet now, could the speaker be dying?’ is something we got all the time. Most of the time when people clean their headphones, all the do is take a wipe or a brush (if you’re lucky alcohol) and clean the outside of the mesh. Half the time all they’re doing is pushing earwax through the mesh so you get a nice little wax puck when you open them up.

              It’s gross, but it did feel good to be able to tell people they didn’t need new headphones, we just cleaned them for $15.

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    Fake, but even if it was true, the problem would have probably been the age change and not the gender change. Teenage relationships and adult relationships have different rules…

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        Yeah, I have to assume 18 year old women are on average way, way, way poorer than 40 year old men. That’s true regardless of the gender, 40 tends to be a pretty high spot in personal capital.

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          My eyes rolled so hard on this one lol. An 18 year old woman has 40 year old losers waiting in line to buy them shit. Free drinks in the bar, free vacation, free meals, free shopping trips. 10k a month for “feet pics” on only fans 🤮.

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                Experiencing your “reality” that you or some insecure manosphere shitheel just made up to justify hating women, which you wouldn’t know is false because you’ve never in your miserable life actually talked to a woman who was comfortable sharing those intimate details of her personal life with you? No, no I’m not.

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            Those are really weird incel beliefs.

            But, for levity, please explain what is wrong with this:

            10k a month for “feet pics” on only fans

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              It’s weird that you refuse to actively reject reality. Good npc energy yum. Did you notice that only fans made more than the salary of the combined NBA?

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                What is wrong with making money on OnlyFans? What is wrong with making money in the NBA? I am now more confused.

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                  I didn’t say anything was wrong with it. People just seem to think there isn’t any money in being an 18 year old woman they are all broke lol.

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      And also gay.

      Lemmy dumping on Reddit via a 4chan greentext

      I’m so proud of this community.

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        It depends entirely on the maturity of the parties involved, it’s not really an “older/younger” thing.

        But generally, the less mature you are, the more a relationship is selfish, i.e. you want to be in a relationship for your personal advantage, i.e. “i get sex when I have a girlfriend”. The more mature you get, the more relationships go into the direction of “I want to make the other person happy”. You still get your sex or whatever other advantage of course, but it’s much more fulfilling if you can actually give the other person what they need, and temporarily losing your personal benefit of the relationship doesn’t cause immediate breakups.

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          They don’t really. They are often learned the hard way, because no one attempts to explain them or just acts like they know but doesn’t really.