• Delphia@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    This happened to me about 10 minutes after I found out my childhood best friend committed suicide.

    “OH SMILE! IT CANT BE THAT BAD!”

    I just let it slide and paid for my damn smokes, lady was just trying to be upbeat and friendly. Dumping that on her would have just made her feel bad and wouldnt have made me feel any better.

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      7 months ago

      Honestly sometimes people should be made to feel bad, and making comments to strangers about how they aren’t performing pleasantness satisfactorily enough for the general public is one of those times. Not dumping it on them definitely makes you the bigger person, but if someone doesn’t want people dumping their problems on them then telling every upset looking stranger “it can’t be that bad!” is the absolute worst way to go about it, lol.

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        7 months ago

        Yeah, I think it speaks to the bubble that she lives in. Bubbles exist to pop, and I think being told exactly that it can be that bad is the perfect way to do it.

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      7 months ago

      It also could’ve been a lesson for her in being overly flippant with people who do sometimes have genuine problems they are mired in.