like “supporting” someone with adhd but hating them and believing they should be shunned or treated differently for interrupting others, not paying attention, and not being able to sit still, rather than try to help them or tell them not to interrupt the conversation.

or “supporting” deaf people but getting mad because they only talk sign language and can’t hear what you say.

I have quite a few disorders and i’ve been talked abt and treated like shit for it, and not just because I have the disorder but because im different. I don’t fit in anywhere and never will.

all of my “friends” talk shit abt me and my disabilities, and then one person is always like “oh yeah, this person said this about you and they hate that you can’t pay attention, and that person says you should jump off a cliff!”

  • magnetosphere@fedia.io
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    23 hours ago

    I think it’s reasonable for someone to get frustrated when someone has a disability, but only if that frustration doesn’t negatively affect one’s behavior. First and foremost, the disabled person deserves to be treated and respected as a person.

    When someone says TO SOMEONE ELSE they hate the fact that you can’t pay attention, maybe they’re only venting, or making a reasonable complaint. Are they still friendly on other occasions? Then your friendship is worth enough to them that they’re willing to tolerate the drawbacks. It may not seem like it at first, but that could be more of a compliment than anything. Actions really do speak louder than words.

    The “jump off a cliff” remark is concerning, though. That’s not an okay thing to say, or even think. I’d recommend avoiding that person - but who’s telling you this shit? Are they a reliable source? How trustworthy can they be if they’re spreading nasty gossip about things that were said to them in private? It’s possible that they’re lying, or exaggerating.

    Give people some slack, but not so much that you’re letting them treat you badly. Friendships are valuable. Don’t let the bad overshadow the good. Nobody, no matter how “perfect” they seem, has infinite patience. They also can’t possibly know what it’s like to be you.