Hi, I’m a 21 year old guy and every time I’m outside for example to buy groceries I see so many good looking people (both female and male).
I don’t know what it is but they seem almost perfect, their faces are so beautiful and perfect, their clothes are so stylish and perfect, their hair and make up appearance looks so well groomed and beautiful. (I’m mainly referring to people around my age from Gen Z)
They’re all so confident and wear jewelry etc.
I don’t even have the knowledge how to dress good and stylish as I don’t have a feel for that. I just end up wearing what’s most comfortable for me like random sneakers, sweatpants/shorts and a polo shirt. But even if I was able to dress stylishly my face naturally still looks very average and not like all these other people.
I wonder why people look so perfect nowadays. When I look at old video tapes or pictures (like from the 1900’s) people seem to have looked way more average like me. Why could this be? Is the pressure from social media a reason because that’s why I’m purposefully not on there.
And honestly I also don’t feel like putting so much time and effort into my looks as I think this is only secondary in life and I mainly value human connections. Obviously I put some extra time into it for some occasions where I put on contact lenses, creams, a little make up (one that’s for men of course), hair gel/spray and perfume but even then I feel like I don’t look as good as many of these people I see on a regular basis.
I’m literally trying to do that middle approach. It’s just that I don’t wanna spend the majority of my life thinking how I should dress especially when I’m just going to the grocery store, as life is way too short for that.
But like I said I value comfort and it’s not like I don’t care what others think, it’s just that it’s not too important for me and everyone has their own taste anyways.
For example I don’t like jeans at all for me personally, comfort and style wise (even though I think it looks very beautiful on others).
Matching the Polo with shorts is literally in the first image I sent you and that’s a common fit I wear in the summer. When wearing sweatpants I often go with a hoodie or hoodie jacket and these are very common things.
So I really don’t see the problem. I’m not saying it’s bad that others put so much effort and thought into their appearance I’m just saying it’s not my thing and what I’m good at as this would exhaust me. But I agree with your point that anything could be a potential chance and it’s important how you present yourself.