There are some places that have a crazy office politics environment (2007 Microsoft, I’m looking at you). If that is the case, I would just change jobs.

However, if you just have annoying coworkers who are off topic, I would just steer the conversation back to work items (“oh, before I forget, can you tell me about [work related item]?”), then leave the conversation. Other tactics that work for me: look really awkward during personal conversation, never ask how someone is doing, wear headphones.

Someone once told me it’s important to care, but not that much. This has also helped me.

Beat of luck to you!!

New Chad

Culture, yes. Class, maybe not. 😉

I think schools stopped teaching it at some point. Legal docs are one of the places that use it as originally intended. And, I guess, older folks.

That kinda makes sense because that is the how it is intended to be used (from a punctuation perspective).

el·lip·sis noun the omission from speech or writing of a word or words that are superfluous or able to be understood from contextual clues.

Here representing the suburban moms.

Why?!?

M, T, Th, F: work from home, have lunch with my husband (if work schedule allows), play with kids when they get home from school

W: work from home, have lunch with my husband (if work schedule allows), badger kids to do music therapy, play with kids

Sa: business meeting with my dad, play with kids, nap, grocery shopping

Su: play with kids, nap, play with kids

I’m in charge of all adhoc things outside of the house and financial. Husband is a stay at home parent and does all the home stuff.

Probably would be - age plays into it as well. My kids are pretty impacted - minimal language, safety issues, etc. I suspect it can vary widely.

My kids don’t have full language capabilities, they struggle with fixations (which means learning has to be customized to their fixations or it won’t happen), and they don’t have enough situational awareness to be safe.

So, therapies are helpful in getting them enough language to have basic needs met (and minimize behavior issues), practicing doing things they don’t prefer for short bursts and learning things like how to behave in a parking lot. We may never get to productivity or self sufficiency - we are focused on staying alive.

Thanks for saying that. 🙂

EDIT: I responded in a way that was not helpful below and I’ve fixed it now…

I would tear off my right arm to have a robust enough safety net to take care of my kids adequately (and thanks to UHC in that situation, I would live thru it!).

Nothing, back of the napkin math for discussion purposes based on the 2 diagnosisea and doc recommendations we’ve gotten. Totally can adjust if you have a more accurate number.

So, you totally hit the nail on the head. I couldn’t agree more: It is about maximizing resources for overall good. It is just that some groups may not see a qualitative difference in care.

Fair, take that piece out of the equation. Our docs still advised us on 20+ hours of therapy, all of which is costly.

20+ hours of anything is costly if you are paying the therapists appropriately. The issue is that their work is 1:1 and doesn’t scale easily.

You are right, which is why I used 15%, instead of 82%.

No, it is from unfortunate personal experience. Special needs families get the short end of the stick in a lot of ways - ours included. Feel free to IM me about it if you want specific anecdotes. After killing myself to get my kids what they need (navigating insurance denials, waiting lists for specialists, underfunded and confusing government programs, lack of childcare, hitting out of pocket maximums year after year, and taking jobs that leave me exhausted and with little family time to pay for it all), I have a huge defense mechanism for anything that sounds like it can quickly and easily solve this kind of situation - because I’ve been repeatedly shown it is a pipe dream. It doesn’t mean UHC isn’t a noble cause or the right way to go. But the reality is that it probably won’t be much of a qualitative change for families like ours. And it is hard to hear that our experiences and fears are not valid.

I love that!

I just estimated that 15% need care. So that would leave a huge number that don’t - you are right.

EDIT: A quick Internet search says that 82% of autistic adults want or get support, and only 16% are fully employed. 🤷

My kids are real life examples demonstrating that huge investment, while good for the individuals, does not reduce the cost or burden of them to society later in their life. And that very concept could risk society’s willingness to pay for any disabled person’s full care under universal healthcare.