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  • You need a lawyer, from a firm with experience in international law, specific for both countries. Google one, you talk to them, give them the facts, and they’ll see if there’s any way. Do NOT try to self-help this, that is likely to end up poorly for you and/or the child. If you can’t afford a lawyer, start earning and saving now, doing it right in 5 years is better than fucking anything up asap. If you can’t save money for one, you go kick rocks.






  • I can (mostly intentionally) zonk out pretty quickly in most sitting or laying positions. Clear calm mind helps me. I might use 1 of 2 exercises. The first I started using is for when my mind is too active from the day and thoughts just keep popping up, each time one does, I imagine putting it in a cardboard box, closing it up and tossing it away. The second one I use more when my body is physically tired, but I’m not mentally sleepy, I imagine I’m laying down at the trunk of an impossibly tall tree, looking at a single leaf near the edge that I can just barely make out, then imagine I’m rapidly floating up where I can see the trunk rapidly moving “down” behind my head, but the leaf just only so very barely seems to get any closer, and just keep that up until I fall asleep.







  • Just an FYI, if anyone looks into this and sees a good deal of negativity in the MTG community about it, it isn’t that they’re specifically negative about Star Trek, but rather there’s just a general growing discontent with the volume and variety of 3rd party IP sets being produced in the last year or two. The sets are usually pretty solid on theming for those who like that IP, play quality varies (but that’s true for any set), usually feels better when the set has a bit of a story to it.

    These sets are created with the primary goal to pull in new players based on the IP, collecting the game is not cheap, but there’s a wide variety of interesting ways to play it. You won’t be “competitive” with just cards from this set (if that matters to you), you’ll probably need a variety of IP cards from things like Marvel, Turtles, Airbender or Final Fantasy as well as the Magic core IPs.


  • If you feel like what they’re doing is impacting your ability to do your assigned responsibilities, tell your manager. If you feel like they are going to bad mouth you to your manager, you can CYA and give your manager a heads-up. If you’re feeling personally harassed, that goes to HR, evidence is helpful. Otherwise, just continue to enforce your boundaries, you don’t need to explain the why to anyone not on your direct team or management chain, simple answers are fine: “Sorry, I can’t help with that.”, “I’m waiting for my next patient to assist”, “I’m taking my pause now and will be back in 30.”


  • You’re in a union, talk to your union rep, bring documentation of the incidents and see what they think and if they can help. If they agree and help, great.

    If they can’t help, then anytime anyone outside your management chain asks you to do something, you can say something to the effect of I’d love to help, can you just ask my manager for permission to prioritize your task over their normal priorities for me. If your manager/management chain asks you to do something, make sure you tell them what won’t get done properly or timely if you comply with their task “If I do XYZ tasks, then I won’t have time to finish ABC priority today”, if they’re ok it, then you document it and suck it up.

    The keys here are: always act as if you’re willing and happy to help, you only do work authorized by the people who can give you work, the people who give you work are the bad guys if they say no and they become aware of all the extra requests of your time, don’t overload your trying to carry your own work and someone else’s, document as much as possible in case someone in your management chain has an issue with you not having done something that a manager agreed to.

    That’s what’s worked for me in the corporate world at least, not sure what your environment is, so YMMV.