There are some funky federation issues right now, the servers are straining a little bit under the load spike. I can see your post.

Cisgender means the person has a gender identity that matches the sex they were assigned at birth.

If you are a man and you were assigned male at birth, you are cis.

If you are a man and you were assigned female at birth, you are trans.

Non-binary can mean anything from not having a strong specifically male or female identity to closer to switching identities (bi-gender falls closer into this) to just having a lot of serious fluidity, but typically speaking at least part of the time the identity doesn’t match the assigned sex at birth.

The admin of this instance also is the admin of mastodon.world and the code of conduct (applies to all of ruud’s stuff) can be found here:

https://mastodon.world/about

Any person who is a user of this instance or participates in any community hosted on this instance is bound by those rules.

If you don’t like the rules, you are absolutely welcome to find an instance that you would prefer but remember, if you still choose to visit any community here, you gotta pay attention to the rules. If you don’t like that moderators can and will moderate, you might want to find some other place to hang out.

Yeah, they can definitely have their rules and it’s on everyone who steps over there to follow them for sure. They can run their instance and communities however they want, that’s the beauty of this whole system. It’s just unfortunate that they blocked a couple general population instances without specifically contrary rules and beliefs because a couple people were being jerks (if that’s what’s been happening).

I read that there were some people with accounts at lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works that went into their communities and were rude, inflammatory, and not following their rules so I think it’s more of a ‘punishing the many for the actions of the few’ situation. Maybe they were getting overrun, maybe there were a ton of rule breakers, or maybe they just didn’t want to deal with the huge surge of users. Hard to say.

I haven’t been in their communities so I don’t know if maybe they have much more strict rules that people weren’t following or what. Or maybe people were bringing a vibe they weren’t fond of - they may have that insular community feel and maybe too many people moved into their neighborhood that threw off their block parties, I don’t know. I personally don’t feel the loss because I’m not in their communities but I do feel kinda sad that someone federated with both might see people commenting the exact same thing but they can’t see each other so they can’t just interact with each other.

I’m subscribed to 50 total communities / magazines across Lemmy and kbin and honestly, almost every time I hit refresh (while using subscribed and sort by new - I understand there are some front page bugs) I get new stuff to read or look at.

I haven’t felt like it’s dead here since I signed up and the engagement has just gotten better as people get more comfortable with whichever software they’re using (either Lemmy, kbin, or even Mastodon). It’s not an overwhelming amount of posts like trying to read Reddit by New.

And I look regularly for other communities I might be interested in.

I wish there was a way to separate NSFW a little more - I don’t mind NSFW stories and adult language and so forth when scrolling but if I’m in public I don’t want to scroll All and see porn. I have no problem with porn, but to me there’s a time and place.

When I have NSFW disabled, I’m losing entire communities that I read the stories from because sometimes the content does 100% need the warning flag that it might not be for general audiences, but I don’t mind seeing an R rated movie in public while I won’t go see an NC-17 movie or an X rated movie in a theatre, personally, if that makes sense.

Premium’s been a thing for a long time, it used to be Reddit Gold several years ago. It also used to be cheaper, $3.99/mo but it went up multiple years ago.

They might be pushing it hard right now, though. Not sure. Maybe they’re trying to entice the people who were paying for 3PA features to pay Reddit instead or something.

I currently have premium, ad free is the only way Reddit is palatable even before all this went down and I bought it ages ago when I wanted to support a thing I used every day and also have had a couple awards that extended it, it expires in August. I won’t be renewing.

!shittyfoodporn@lemmy.ca is one I saw pop up recently.

!gifrecipes@lemmy.world also.