I think a lot of the people on Lemmy came from Reddit when the whole API thing happened. It was pretty much a boycott. I assume most of the people who cared enough about that to leave were mostly left-leaning.

That’s why I’m here, at least.

Edit: not sure about Mastodon, though

We got even plus sized manikins in stores, wow.

you do know that’s because plus-sized clothing exists too, right? Do you expect stores to just not display their clothes simpy because they’re for fat people, or…?

But I dare you to name a single character from a show or movie that is skinny (not jacked skinny, but skinny skinny) that isn’t a crackhead junkie, some psycho or a basement dweller with his eyes glued to a screen?

Victor, from Arcane; Ben Wyatt, from Parks and Recreation; Gareth Keenan, from The Office (UK); Ken Cosgrove from Mad Men. I’m sure there are many more, but that’s just who I could think of off the top of my head.

I absolutely agree that there should be better representation of men’s (and women’s, imo) body types, including skinny men. But you’re really overestimating the quantity and quality of decent representation of fat women in roles that don’t rely on steroetypes. By that, I mean: isn’t unhinged/shrill/creepy/portrayed as gross or undesirable because she’s fat (and sometimes old)/there solely and shallowly as “the funny fat woman”. The majority of roles played by women, especially prominent ones, are still played by thin women.

Fat female characters are relatable and important to have because—whether you like it or not—fat women exist in real life. One simply existing in media does not inherently come with a statement condoning any particular lifestyle as you seem to be implying.

I know one, DJ Qualms, who’s arguably most famous role is a disabled person. Great.

…and? That’s a bad thing to you?

one of the best channels on YouTube, imo

Are you talking about Kaitlin Bennett?

it feels like colleagues talk bad about me.

What makes you say that? It’s pretty likely that’s just your anxiety talking.

I’m not exactly the most social—or even socially competent—person, but I know friends are important to have, especially if you don’t have family you can lean on. Friends can balance you out and provide alternate perspectives when you need them, and we all need them sometimes.

Also, I’m pretty sure having (good) friends is beneficial for your mental health. Having no friends can be detrimental to it.

Regardless of what you decide, I suggest putting yourself out there. Start slowly, and ask people about themselves. It can very difficult and stressful at first, but it does get easier over time.

It might be a good idea to make a pros/cons list for staying/getting a job; I’m sure there are other important factors to consider aside from the social climate.

It certainly is very… yellow. Even so, FNV is the best Fallout game (at least when compared to 3/4/76) imo

Maybe I’ll check out London one of these days

Are you enjoying FNV? Is it your first time playing it?

Maybe it wasn’t an intentional attempt at a gotcha, but regardless, your question is predicated on a false equivalence.

Yeah. I mean, I genuinely do enjoy hanging out with the right kinds people. Occasionally. And for relatively short periods of time. I just have so little social energy and a lot of social anxiety. I find myself frustratingly uninterested in (and/or overwhelmed with) the idea of socializing, not even via text, and I pretty much rely on my SO for making/hanging with friends. So, not great.

I’ve always thought I could get a lot out of meditation, but I’m so bad at sticking to literally anything. Maybe it’s just a self-fulfilling prophecy, but I’ve tried so many things in an attempt to increase socialization or even generally just improving my own life.

I don’t really want to be this antisocial, but making and keeping close friendships seems so daunting and exhausting to me.

Mocking the kinds of abhorrent claims of “antisemitism” that Israel makes is not even remotely the same as mocking the idea of actual, real life antisemitism.

That’s awesome to hear, but I’m sure it’ll be unaffordable for many—if not most—people who need it… at least in the US. :(

Idk… a good therapist can do a lot of good. But I can’t in good faith blame you for having that perspective.

There are some really shitty ones out there, and then there are the ones that seem to try, but just aren’t very good. I’ve experienced both myself.

I’d argue that it’s dumb as fuck either way.

Honestly, I’d respond positively. Small talk is exhausting

I love Aldi, but why does every location in my city seem to have such a lackluster selection of frozen veggies in comparison to other grocery stores??? It’s been this way for years.

I just want to have the option to buy the big bags of broccoli/stir fry veggies/ect. that have enough for more than one meal, not the little steamable ones that seem to be more expensive and probably waste more plastic.

TIL that merely mentioning the struggles and limitations that disabled people face—as a disabled person—within a seemingly cordial discussion about peoples’ access and ability to cook healthy meals means I’m literally ATTACKING the point of the person I’m replying to.

The fact that I had several points (in a single comment, mind you) does not mean that they keep changing. I suggest you revisit what moving goalposts actually means.

It’s been my experience that it takes less time and money to make a healthy meal at home. I don’t know why that’s a problem to you.

That’s been my experience, too. Like I’ve already said, I frequently cook cheap, healthy meals at home. I rarely eat fast food.

But my original points aren’t centered around my—or your—personal experience; we’re not the only two people who exist. Everyone has varying degrees of resources and ability.

Gee, straw man, you somehow wrote an entire paragraph while ignoring literally all of my points 👍

Unlimited carrying capacity

It takes much more effort to make a healthy well-rounded meal than just scrambling up “a few eggs”. I’m happy you have enough time, energy, and physical ability to spend an hour making dinner, but a lot of people don’t.

Some have multiple jobs, kids, disabilities, ect. Others live in food deserts where it’s impossible—or at least very difficult—to find cheap, healthy food. Not to mention the people who were never taught how to cook, and would have to spend even more time, energy, (and very possibly wasted food) on learning how.

This is coming from someone who can and does cook cheap, healthy meals all of the time.