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Cake day: December 24th, 2025

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  • Beating the shit out of them. Use a big stick or special tool. If you have a rack nearby you can use it, but otherwise a sturdy fence or railing works as well. Clotheslines will not work.

    Between beatings I’ll vacuum topside often, and sometimes turn them over to vacuum underside as well. Your vacuum may have a vent (likely somewhere on the pipe, near where you hold it) you can open for more airflow, to make it easier to vacuum without sucking up the fabric itself.

    As a yearly/seasonal cleaning you can scrub them with snow (if you have snow) and a rough brush. Quite fun!




  • Heat the frozen veggies in the broth instead of microwave (keeps any remaining water soluble nutrients in the dish, and makes the veggies less wilted imo).

    Try different frozen veggies (green beans, carrots, corn, spinach, avocado?).

    Most fresh veggies can be sliced or diced into it as well whenever there’s a good price on them, and the taste and texture provides avriety from frozen veggies, but in my experience frozen are usually cheaper. But half a fresh bell pepper can give plenty of good crunch of you add it raw on top. Or thinly sliced or chopped cabbage.

    Add one or a half package of drained ready-to-eat beans (packages in water, not dry) for fiber, protein and minerals.

    Experiment with different spices and sauces to put on top. Coconut milk, peanut butter, soy sauce, sriracha, sesame oil, crushed tomatoes…anything you’ve got available can go in (but not everything goes well on the same occasion). The more you spice it yourself the less you need to put of any included spice mix, which is mostly salt, while the noodles themselves are usually also mostly salt.




  • The first one sounds more neutral to me, just mentally add a questionmark or a “right?” to it. They’re leaving space for you to respond if the statement is true or not. This is kinda like how conversations go, people leave space for the others to chime in and take their part in it.

    If someone “claims” something happened, it seems like an accusation or interrogation.

    The main takeaway is that everyone interprets things differently and prefer different styles of communication. Just keep in mind that your interpretation is not always the same as what is being intended.

    I don’t know about thin skinned… it depends on a bunch of factors aside from mere words and pauses, written down here. Do you generally tend towards the defensive (feeling attacked/accused/wronged in conversation, and in turn faulting the other person for feeling that way) when dealing with other people or in certain settings?








  • Beware of romance scams. They can be very patient and build a “connection” for months before starting to need money.

    They’ll need money for all kinds of stuff, like to come visit you but will then cancel at the last second. Maybe their car broke down or they or a family member goes to the hospital.

    They can use AI to fake images and their voice in phone calls - even fake video calls where they look like a completely different person.

    Don’t trust someone you’ve never met, be open with family and friends about the person you’re talking to and trust their judgement of if it’s a scam or not, and don’t send money to anyone before meeting them for real.

    Don’t be ashamed if you do fall for a scam, talk to the people you know so they can help you get out of it.

    Scammers are scum, but they are very good manipulators, especially with people who are older and looking for connections. Stay safe!


  • TL;DR: In my experience they do consider it, but their consideration is off base from completely wrong presumptions due to the depression.

    I would like to know who all these “most people” are and what experience they speak from. In my experience as a former frequent flyer in the female psych ward, most suicidal people I’ve met do care a lot about other people, but their depression makes them convinced that killing themselves would have no or even positive impact on their loved ones in the long run.

    Speaking from experience, it can honestly feel like suicide would be a kindness, like your pain is so big you’re certain it affects everyone around you and your mere existence (and your mental unhealth) is a burden. When that is your minds truth, taking yourself out would relieve others from your pain, and even though it’s frightening (and maybe the short period surrounding your death would be hard on them but not as hard as living with you), it’s the right thing to do for the sake of your loved ones.

    Obviously it’s bullshit to a healthy mind, but depression is such a mind-altering disorder that you can’t distinct between reasonable and affected thoughts. I can barely grasp how it felt and what I believed to be true, now that I’m better.

    And to answer your original question: most other the time when I didn’t attempt suicide it was because my plan of action would lead to a horrific mess for whoever found me/had to clean it up, or because there was a risk someone I knew would be the one to find me, or risk of someone witnessing/causing my death which would be traumatic for even a stranger.