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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • I find myself saying this one a lot. When I feel like I’m putting in effort and the other person won’t meet me in the middle something like this always seems to slip out, but I hate how passive aggressive it is.

    Reframing it so ‘the problem’ is the problem rather than the person is a good idea. Helps with communication, and if it can be internalized, it seems like a better way to think about the conflict too.





  • I hate this so much. People should be free to act like they want (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone), because why the hell not? What’s so objectively better about acting in the ‘normal’ way? But everything outside the very narrow idea of normal is treated like a problem by default.

    I have some tics that come out when I’m alone that I’ve filtered out around others as long as I can remember, and honestly I think that’s part of why I feel so claustrophobic in social situations. I don’t even know how to act like ‘myself’ in public if I want to.

    Seeing people being themselves regardless of how it looks to the current typical sensibilities is the only thing that lets me feel like I might be able to do the same. So fwiw, every little bit of rule breaking you have done or will do makes the world a little better for me, and anyone else who doesn’t feel welcome. Thanks.





  • I can’t say I’ve ever thought about it one way or another, but I don’t really feel physically exhausted or sore after housework, so I guess I wouldn’t consider it exercise? For me at least, I don’t mean to say anyone is wrong for thinking otherwise.

    I dunno, I sweep, mop, clean the bathroom, do the dishes, all the normal housework stuff - it’s definitely more strenuous than not doing anything, but in my mind there’s a place between sitting and exercise which is where housework kinda falls. Though the linked article also includes some yardwork like raking, weeding and mowing the lawn, which definitely feel more like exercise to me.


  • I’d say I primarily use a calendar for seeing which day of the week is which calendar date. I typically don’t have too much scheduled in the next ~two weeks at any time to keep in my head, in the form of day of the week now that I think about it. I usually use a calendar to check if there’s anything further out than that and convert it to e.g. ‘next thursday’ to remember.

    It sounds like you use a calendar much more than I do, I check mine once every couple weeks at most tbh. I might be the outlier here though, who knows.


  • Seems like an overreaction considering how many degrees of separation the instance has from actual pirated stuff. No pirated content is hosted on dbzer0, no direct links to pirated content either. Even if a copyright holder takes issue with the community it would seem unlikely for them to target one of hundreds of instances which federate and have it cached rather than the actual source instance itself.

    That being said, I don’t know where lemmy.world’s servers are located, some places are pretty strict with piracy. Even if it’s a small chance I can see how, from the perspective of an admin, it wouldn’t be worth risking the whole instance and potential legal action.

    Still seems like an extreme response to me, but hey, beauty of the fediverse and all that. I chose a small instance specifically to avoid defederations like this and I’m perfectly happy with it (thanks for hosting neo).





  • I use the mobile site, so this is perfect! I’d been through the settings but totally missed that checkbox. Thank you!

    It’s funny, I vaguely remember having comments sorted differently by default too, but I can’t seem to find any actual record of it. Mandela effect? Anyway, I’m hoping the option will be added soon, since I can’t get it to work quite right with a script:

    window.addEventListener("load", function(event) { 
      	document.querySelector('[id$="-new"]').click();
    })
    

    This only seems to work when the page is refreshed for some reason. If you or anyone else happens to know a solution that’d be greatly appreciated, I don’t know javascript well.