I’m always so extremely confused about the trope of the personal project having shit quality… Like, if I’m doing something for myself, that’s exactly the place where I wanna do something amazing, like literally all my private projects have much higher quality than my work ones - because in the work ones I’m forced to use stupid conventions, old tools, am not supposed to touch “legacy” code, etc etc etc

As such, since companies have their private code on GitHub, that’s where I would expect the shittiness to come from, not personal private projects.

Suuuuper confused no one mentioned The Witness yet. Probably the best calm game of our time.

My country has a social safety net, you don’t lose your home when you go unemployed. You just live in poverty instead, which for me, was preferable.

I dealt with it by becoming unemployed and living off of social security.

Would be cool to have the money to afford a car or motorcycle and their respective licenses/insurance/gas/etc.

And walking or bicycling 30+km? Some people don’t have close friends.

And when traveling, in any case, you’re still pretty exposed and have to go around lots of people.

I’m not saying you’re entirely wrong, there’s definitely ways to make it easier. But also you seem to just not be aware how different some people’s perceptions/feelings are.

I’m not sure what you’re arguing for here, you really can’t be arguing against online interactions being muuuuch easier, that seems to just be obvious. And some people can only handle these easiest kinds of interactions.

Even if you make other kinds interactions easier, that’s just not enough for some people. Then, internet interactions are amazing.

Buuut if they’re going the speed limit, how are you supposed to overtake them anyway? You wouldn’t break the speed limit, would you?

Do you see 2 white lines inside the empty space? No? Then it’s not two lanes being kept free. Everyone is just at the very edge of their own lane. Sometimes lanes are just wide, it doesn’t usually look like this.

Let’s just be normal real quick :D

It doesn’t matter where you are. When you go to another place it’s the same, you are not at home instantly when you start to leave, you have to ride buses and trains where there is more people.

Not really, though… There’s all kinds of social rules to follow and if you’re hosting people, while potentially valid, if you at one point just say “alright, everyone out, I’ve had enough” you ruin it for all the people who wanted to hang out.

If you go on a asynchronous anonymous online forum, you can stop interacting at any point for any reason and everyone will be fine with it and not care.

That doesn’t look like Pantalaimon?

I see. But also, people change their minds

Communism is not the problem, dictatorship is.

It’s crazy how you see someone with a problematic take, see they’re a communist, and instead of complaining about the problematic take, you focus on the communism.

Why is it stupid to give people the option to only see posts that explicitly selected a language?

The only stupid thing here imo is the UI and how it’s explained, it shouldn’t be part of a multiselect together with the rest of the languages.

Liberals vs leftists essentially 🤣

Just watched it based on your recommendation. Still very relevant today :D

“No patches available” might’ve been true at time of writing (and might still be true for old kernels, idk), but kernel 7.0.4, released yesterday, is already fixed.

7.0.4 kernel has the fix

Look, you might be saying it’s the fault of people around you, but look at what you’re doing here, you give out your real name without a second thought, Mr. Robot.

;)

So yeah I am not black, but you said elsewhere that that kind of opinion is still fine.

And also, if you want, you do not have to bring ethnicity into it at all, in my opinion. This can just be handled like any kind of “family disapproval”. Of course some people are sensitive to racism based issues, but I think it’s not actually that relevant in this question/situation.

In my personal opinion, people value family, and “approval of other humans” in general entirely too much. I understand that family is an important survival mechanism of our species and thus ingrained in our psyche to care about, but in some situations, family bonds are just a straight detriment to one’s life.

For example, if your family causes(/d) huge emotional pain and trauma, which prevents you from properly functioning in society, even if there is the potential safety net of “my family takes care of me while I’m in trouble” (i.e. idk, losing your home and needing a place to sleep) severely loses its value if the result is more pain and dysfunction accompanying it.

This is just to illustrate my general thinking.

Now with regards to situations you mentioned, I would just say “fuck em”. In my opinion, there’s no need to associate with a family that’s not even yours. If your partner insists on it, I would find another partner. With my current partner (who is also Asian), neither she nor I have contact to our families, so it’s not an issue anyway, but in general, there should ideally never be any “requirements” to be fulfilled. If I say no to my partner on something, that’s it, same as when she does it, that’s it for me.

Maybe I’m just extremely lucky or I’m very tolerant, but I think you should have a partner that you like as a human in general, whose whole set of worldviews align with your own. If a partner were to try to force me to interact with their racist family, I fundamentally disagree with that and I would dislike that person so much as to not be able to be with them.

I generally don’t think you can change humans very much, so all of this kind of “attempting to conform to a set of expectations” is moot and shouldn’t be done.

So to summarize this, I think family ties are not that important, and having to confront annoying situations is not necessary, as a loving partner that cares about you would not force that on you. This kind of attitude might leave you without a partner, but it also leaves you free to get a partner who you’re actually compatible with and don’t need to care about stupid family views.

So I’m personally really struggling because there are no paragraphs. The text itself is completely fine, I think. But when paragraphs are missing, I’m just unable to focus on the text for long and extract meaning from it.

Usually, you try to group closely related sentences together in a paragraph. It’s a bit of an art but uuuusually relatively obvious. So for example, when I start reading your post, the first group I could identify was the “preamble of stating your intention”, which is

I’m a Black man in the Pacific Northwest, and I’ve been thinking about interracial dating, especially Black men dating Asian women. I want to be clear: I’m not here to attack Asian people, Asian women, Black women, white people, or anyone else. I’m asking because I’m genuinely trying to understand the conversation better.

Then it continues with some personal experiences, each of which deserve its own paragraph:

I’ve dated Asian women before, including a Vietnamese woman I still think highly of because she was mature, open-minded, and not racist. I was young then and my intentions were different then.

I was offered to marry an Asian woman but I declined; The person of interest behaved one way in front of her parents, another way around her friends and a different way around my friends, and overall she treated me like I was an experiment. I side eyed her a lot.

Then it gets hard for me, because it seems you make a generic statement about your preferences/thoughts:

My interest is not based on stereotypes or fetishizing. I’m attracted to different kinds of women, and I try to see people as individuals.

Which sounds like a separate set of statements which should stand apart from the rest, because then you go into another section about online discourse, but you start with a “But”, which sounds like the statements are related. I did not understand at first what you liking women in a certain way has to do with online discourse that says asian women like white men over black men.

I think I understand now after taking this long time dissecting it, but that’s kinda what I mean, I had to do that dissecting now which I would have to do much less/none of if the statements were nicely grouped by paragraphs.

I hope that was clear :)

I will offer you my opinion about the actual content in another comment.