• MajorHavoc@lemmy.world
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    Yeah, this can be a generational cultural difference.

    I mourned the death of my grandfather three separate times when my mother texted me “please call”. Each time when I called back I learned something different:

    1. We had to change our lunch plans.
    2. There was an alarming local news article about driving conditions.
    3. My grandfather had died.
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      I’m 40. I don’t even answer the phone if it rings. If it’s important they can leave a message.

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        Which I’ll check in a few days. If it’s important, and they are pinned underneath a vehicle about to die, they can send a voice memo.

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      Sorry if I don’t think minor topics are worthy of the immediate attention needed for a phone call?

      Phone calls are reserved for emergencies. Otherwise you’re just demanding the instant attention of someone for nothing.

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      It’s more of a Millenial thing. I’m 35 and I don’t pick up the phone ever unless it’s an emergency or a job interview.

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          Because people suck, and they tend to be more rude on the phone. I don’t want to deal with it.

          Not to mention that the only time my phone rings, it’s almost always a scam. I prefer not to engage with bullshitters.

          If it’s important, then text me.

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          I don’t if you won’t text me. So it’s on you.

          Furthermore, in a real emergency, people tend to blow up your phone. So if someone is calling multiple times, of course I’ll answer, if nothing more than to yell at them for blowing up my phone.

      • uis@lemmy.world
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        That’s about outgoing calls. Incoming calls still will be fullscreen pop-ups

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      I don’t think all zoomers are, but a LOT of the people I know are TERRIFIED of phone calls. I was like that too, before I started applying for jobs and had to make like 3 calls a week.

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        Yeah, I’m a millennial and use to have terrible phone anxiety. It prevented me from being able to get a job for a long time. I would always try to go in person instead because it was less anxiety inducing but never got a job that way.

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      Also almost 40. Fuck synchronous communications. Inferior in every possible way.

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    Nobody is actually this terrified of a phone call right? Besides the usual social anxiety anyway.

    My father’s phone doesn’t even have internet, hell, they barely built a computer that could beat Nazi encryption back when he was born, he didn’t even see his first computer in person until he was what, 50?

    He struggles at testing, no way could he navigate a modern phone haha. So, phone calls are normal for us :-)

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      You and your dad sound like what, millennial and Boomer? You’re definitely not Gen Z or younger though I’m assuming.

      I’m 40 so elder millennial I guess. I like Gen Z overall but goddamn do they SUCK at using the damn phone. I train a lot of 22-24yo kids at work and they truly are terrified of phone calls. Video call, friggin forget it man. Like they might turn on their camera once if I directly ask or tell them but it’s a battle every time.

      This is the same generation that’s demanding full remote, and they refuse to actually communicate remotely. It’s really frustrating and annoying. How in the world do you expect to function in a group if you can’t or won’t communicate with people in real time? Do they really expect to go to their entire careers only texting or emailing?

      Again I like them overall, they are very smart educated and resourceful, but their communication absolutely fucking sucks. So yeah this comic is super accurate but I don’t find it funny.

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        How in the world do you expect to function in a group if you can’t or won’t communicate with people in real time?

        wow. i thought it was just me.

        I’ve got really good people on the team – but only if you trust them go do stuff with zero communications and then the pop back up with completed work. Which is kinda ok if you don’t need to do any team projects. Its driving me nuts and I totally see why some managers are like “fuck it, get your ass into the same room”. Its simply easier than coaching people on how to be slightly better than a chatbot.

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      My dad is probably about the same age (currently 81)

      He didn’t touch a computer until the mid 2000s, and he just wanted to be able to email. It was a looooong journey to get him comfortable doing that.

      Since he got a smart phone he texts literally every day, has installed a number of apps himself, can mostly get new services working himself (he did Amazon Prime, with some mild hand holding).

      If anything, I call him more then he calls me!

      It’s doable :)

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      This is probably family dependent. My family is similar to OP’s, we usually text if we want to have casual conversations. Voice calls are limited to serious topics only… unless I text them “hey, let’s have a call” or something like that first.

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    To me it feels texting takes longer. Call someone up and it’s done in less than a minute. Why write some long ass message?

    Most folks don’t even bother writing back… Message seen? Best forget about it.

    Edit: typo

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        This so much. Text/email/slack leaves a permanent, searchable record. Synchronous communication is complete garbage and there are very few scenarios where it should be tolerated, much less encouraged.

        Honestly, I’m at the point where if someone insists on calling, I assume they are up to something and are intentionally trying to not go “on the record”

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    This is something that idk if I’ll ever get used to about lemmy

    It’s a meme. It’s a joke. It’s deliberately blown out of proportion.

    Y’all need to calm tf down.

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      Because phonecalls are reserved for when you immediately with no delay need someone.

      Asking about a show is not one of those cases.

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        Or just want to talk to someone? Why are we simultaneously normalizing anti-social behavior and wondering why the young people are so unhappy?

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          Unless you know for sure that the other person is legitimately bored, sitting around not doing anything, imposing yourself on someone like this is rude.

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          So when you “just want to talk” you call someone out of the blue and just expect them to stop what they’re doing and have a little chat? I had a friend like that and I hated it because they always called at the worst moments so I wouldn’t pick up and then they assumed I disliked them and played the victim by a mutual friend. That’s when I actually started disliking them. So don’t randomly call people please thank you.

          Also texting someone instead of talking isn’t antisocial behaviour. You can say as much in a text as you can say in a call and the other person can reply to your text and continue doing what they’re doing at the same time.

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          Why not text ‘wanna talk sometime’? A call demands an immediate response, so reserve it for things that demand immediate responses.

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            No it doesn’t. Just don’t pick up the phone. If it’s important they’ll text you to pick up the phone. There’s a reason the terms “phone tag” and “screening calls” exist.

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              But you don’t know the relative importance of what they’re telling vs what you’re doing. A text gives more information than just seeing your receiving a call.

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                Damn dude, it’s not that big a deal. Just don’t pick up the phone. If it’s important they’ll find a way to let you know.

    • Royal_Bitch_Pudding@lemmy.world
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      Young people don’t call unless it’s serious business.

      Why she reacted like that while also knowing her dad still calls people? No idea

      • Walt J. Rimmer@lemmy.world
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        Not just young people. I’ve seen this kind of behavior in surprisingly old people such as Gen X and even Baby Boomers, but I’ve seen it in a LOT of millennials, the youngest of whom are now in their early thirties and the oldest are in their forties.

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        Not just young people. I am 48, and if I get a call from my mom I would’ve thought something happened to my dad.