we’re so back. anyways as you can tell by the other pinned post, we’ve been a little busy with a lot of stuff on the backend and that’s probably going to continue into the foreseeable future

  • Elise@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Do you mean that you’re obese? I’ve actually met someone today that I really like who is obese, and I’ve had a ONS with someone who was obese. Don’t sell yourself short!

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      1 year ago

      Doesnt change the fact that im still really fucking ugly but thank u kind stranger 🥰

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        1 year ago

        You know a lot of guys feel insecure about balding but I’ve always liked it. Same with gray hair. I also have a friend who is into people who are very skinny or are missing limbs. Weird I know but I am just saying you never know what other people look for. And at the end of the day its not your looks people fall for.

        And I am not even talking about friendship here, which is arguably better for many people, or simply strangers.

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            1 year ago

            You know this might sound made up but I’ve never met a confident woman except for that woman from the ONS. That’s what I fell for. She had been bullied so badly, at some point she just decided to start validating herself. It’s so rare.

            And how is any of this related to friendship? Those are arguably better any way.

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                1 year ago

                I don’t mean to invalidate your feelings but I feel people often want the things they can’t have, and when it comes to love that applies to everyone. I think romantic relationships are put too much on a pedestal in our culture. The truth is that finding true love is a rare thing and it isn’t something most of us should expect. And if you do happen to find it in your life, you don’t know when. It might have already happened or it might happen when you are 80.

                Christian/platonic love can be just as fulfilling or even more so because it doesn’t have the carnal aspect. And that’s the kind of love you give, rather than expect to receive.

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                    1 year ago

                    Don’t you think you’re making a lot of assumptions about me? Don’t you see any value in the things I’ve said?