• Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org
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    4 months ago

    I know so many people who adamantly stand by their use of it. I used to say it, too, but all it took was one person to point out to me that it was hurtful and I apologised and stopped no questions asked. I don’t get why it’s so hard to just have a little empathy.

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOP
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      4 months ago

      based and i adore people who are like you

      it does tend to be a good litmus test for disempathy, sadly. obviously there are outliers, but if one can’t take a tiny correction to like 0.01% of their vocabulary, color me not surprised when that same person starts talking about the immigrant problem or women’s place in the home or something :(

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        4 months ago

        My guy still thinks bigotry is caused by lack of empathy. It’s actually selective empathy that helps encourage bigots.

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      4 months ago

      i used to think it was okay for me to say as i’m disabled. what i noticed, though, is that my doing so 1) communicated to my abled peers that it’s okay for them to say as well & 2) made me appear as a pick-me; i was perceived as “one of the good ones.”

      the r-slur has been causing a very visceral reaction in me for years & i will continue to report each & every instance of it.

      • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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        That’s the problem I have when people of that slur use it. And worse, they act like it’s not a big deal. There’s offensive words I can use because of my skin tone that would absolutely get any non-colored person choked out.

        But you nailed it. If I brush it off like it doesnt offend/isn’t a disgusting word, then I am giving permission to others that it’s okay to say.