• FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    It’s kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.

  • GustavoM@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.

    “But its a generic question!”

    Two words: common courtesy.

    • CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.

      Or he might just be an idiot.

      Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.

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        1 year ago

        In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.

      • AFK BRB Chocolate@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.

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        1 year ago

        They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.

        To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.

        So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.

        This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.

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          1 year ago

          Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work

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              Me and my gf have generally have an overlap in music taste (heavy metal/hard rock) but only I like heavy electronic (too “noisy”/overstimulating for bee) and the music I don’t like of hers is more pop music (I like some of it also depends how I feel)

              So I’ll go break the news to her that we have to break up due to music taste. It’s a shame cus we have a ton of shared interest but this… aw man can’t believe this is why we gotta split

              /s incase it wasn’t painfully obvious

  • Eochaid@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Someone’s insecure about his Shakira collection.

    Seriously though, I’m guessing this guy either doesn’t like music at all (I’ve known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It’s a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.

    Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.

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      1 year ago

      I didn’t even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally “normal”?

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        I used to not like music at all and 15 year old me would have probably responded just like this guy. But for me it was more that I didn’t know what I liked until I heard it. Everyone around me exclusively listened to top 40 and RnB, or techno/house. I seriously thought there was something wrong with me cos I hated everything I heard. And then I heard metal for the first time, and everything changed.

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        1 year ago

        There’s a lot of good examples in the comments, but the few Ive ran into were more indifferent thsn anything - like, they never heard anything that appealed to them. One guy I knew actively avoided music because it’d get stuck in his head and drive him nuts.

        They seemed normal otherwise, for the most part. But they knew that disliking music was weird and were a little insecute about it.

    • Rivalarrival@lemmy.today
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      1 year ago

      The last four songs I’ve listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and “We Know The Way” from the Moana soundtrack. I’m not answering this question either. :)

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          1 year ago

          Honestly though that’s the exact kind of thing I would want to know- the real you, not the you that tell me you are.

  • AaronStC@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    This is so weird. The first response was somewhat acceptable if in a joking manner but then he quintuple downed.

  • Knightfall@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    You know… It’s seeing this type of stuff I’m so happy I found my wife the old fashioned way before dating apps existed.

    • ShoePaste@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      seriously. I’d be doomed to die alone if i hadn’t met my wife in college. thank god my friends decided to set us up on a blind date because we had the same birthday and they thought it was funny