• ShustOne@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that’s on you. I think most people aren’t some narcissistic machine invented to inflict maximum social damage to poor little 6’5" guys.

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      1 year ago

      Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that’s on you.

      Please suggest to me a better way to read an interaction in which someone in a very crowded public place just happens to forget that the possibility exists that another human might also need to get down that aisle. “Oopsie doodle! I forgot I was surrounded by a hundred people who would really rather get this chore done as fast as possible! Again! Silly me!”

      Give me a charitable interpretation of that person who doesn’t take even a split second to consider anyone else in their environment without having to be verbally admonished.

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        1 year ago

        “Sometimes I get really excited when I see a friend and don’t realize I’m blocking the way.” That’s how people think. No malice. I hope this helps you see another way to read a slight inconvenience instead of Ultra Gigachad Malice Narcissist Blocker 5000.

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          What mental disorder does this fall into?

          This is totally bouncing off of me. How can a person, in a public space, surrounded at all times by other people, just forget they exist for any amount of time, for any reason? They’re fucking everywhere. They’re breathing, they’re talking, their cart wheels are squeaking, the footsteps from their rubber-soled shoes are echoing off the hard tile floors, how do your senses just stop registering any of that?

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            1 year ago

            I’m glad you are very considerate and have never made a mistake when excited about something before. Good for you friend.

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              I’m glad you are very considerate and have never made a mistake when excited about something before. Good for you friend.

              I’m serious, though. How do you make that “mistake”? How do you get so excited that you completely tunnel-vision out the simultaneous existence of hundreds of people? That’s absolutely in no way neurotypical.

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        1 year ago

        For someone who expects constant awareness for other people you are incredibly un-aware and unfriendly about other people.

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          Yes, I am incredibly unfriendly when I’m trying to get my shit done. I want to be out of that place as fast as fucking possible. I don’t want to linger, I don’t want to chat, and I sure as fuck have never in my life been so distracted that a hundred other moving, talking people just vanished completely from my awareness. Is that some kind of ADHD thing? Some manifestation of executive dysfunction, like always being late and never letting anyone else talk in a conversation if they can’t actively shout over you?

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        1 year ago

        “Oh hey, my friend is in this aisle, and I don’t see anybody else here, so no harm in talking.”

        Not their fault if after that they’re too distracted talking to notice someone walk past the aisle, looking in to see that it’s blocked, and choosing to go around instead of saying “excuse me.”