Recently had a conversation with a good friend about dating, and it had me curious about how everyone on Beehaw approaches dating. Tell me a bit about how you date! Here’s a few prompts/thoughts I’m curious about:

  • How long does it take for you to know if you’re attracted to someone (sexually, romantically, emotionally, shared interests, etc)?
  • What do you like to do when you date and does it change depending on how many dates you’ve been on or how well you know the person?
  • Once you start dating someone, how long does it take you to understand whether you want to date the person long term or whether it’s not going to work out?
  • Do you only date people you meet in real life or do you use dating apps? How do you approach going from stranger to dating them?
  • What’s most important in deciding whether you want to date someone? Do they need to have an interest in activities you enjoy, shared values, emotional intelligence, a certain kind of humor, or something else?
  • Is there something you don’t understand about dating and want to share your frustration?
  • Butterbee (She/Her)@beehaw.orgEnglish
    5·
    9 months ago

    It’s more to vent than anything! Though I have read the responses so far and I do want to understand how it works for others. Realistically, my questions and uncertainties are something that would take many conversations with a therapist for me to understand how to navigate so I don’t expect to learn much aside from curiosity here. I think I would like to find a partner that I’m compatible with perhaps… but I am not ready and may never be. The dynamics TERRIFY me. Absolutely TERRIFY me.

    • Gaywallet (they/it)@beehaw.orgOPEnglish
      4·
      9 months ago

      Okay gotcha. To answer some of your questions directly:

      • I mostly find dates from apps, but that’s because people are my special interest. I love getting to know how humans work. They absolutely fascinate me, so getting a date means I get to learn about someone new and there’s a good chance it’ll turn into something longer term.
      • I’m pretty activity agnostic when it comes to dates, I’m there to enjoy socializing with and learning about how people think and what knowledge they can share with me. Often times dates come with activities and that means there’s other things to enjoy like a good restaurant, interesting art, connecting with nature, or whatever the date entails
      • What is going on is a great question! I have no idea. I just like spending my time around people who I vibe well with and dating is a way to find them. Sometimes the vibes are mediocre but even then I get to learn how other people view the world and that’s really valuable and interesting knowledge to me