Oh sweet, here, I will share my lovely ingressroute in return… to replace the nginx stuff everyone else is using.

apiVersion: traefik.containo.us/v1alpha1
kind: IngressRoute
metadata:
  name: lemmy
  namespace: lemmy
spec:
  entryPoints:
    - websecure
  routes:
    - kind: Rule
      match: Host(`lemmyonline.com`) && (Headers(`Accept`, `application/activity+json`) || Headers(`Accept`, `application/ld+json; profile=\"https://www.w3.org/ns/activitystreams\"`))
      services:
        - name: lemmy
          port: http
    - kind: Rule
      match: Host(`lemmyonline.com`) && (PathPrefix(`/api`) || PathPrefix(`/pictrs`) || PathPrefix(`/feeds`) || PathPrefix(`/nodeinfo`) || PathPrefix(`/.well-known`))
      services:
        - name: lemmy
          port: http
    - kind: Rule
      match: Host(`lemmyonline.com`) && Method(`POST`)
      services:
        - name: lemmy
          port: http
    - kind: Rule
      match: Host(`lemmyonline.com`)
      services:
        - name: lemmy-ui
          port: http

Thanks!

Edit- could be consolidated down to only two rules, I left it expanded out to be a tad easier to read.