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      19 hours ago

      That’s because the LGBT equivalent would be ‘We’re trying to adopt a baby!’. The dude in this comic is just being obnoxious.

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      “Someone shared their big life changing news with me, how can I make this all about me instead”

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        Life changing news is actually being pregnant. You don’t need to tell anyone he’s been rawdogging you.

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          I don’t plan on ever having kids and I don’t really get the desire to, but I can respect that deciding to have a baby is a big decision and you might want to share that with your friends and others.

          Like I laugh at the idea of people telling others that they’re raw dogging it but I think people who actually get upset over it come across as either squeamish or incel-ish

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            I don’t think many people are actually upset over it. Its mostly just jokes about the implication of the term.

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          I feel like hypothetically it is a worthwhile thing to share with your friends that you and your partner have decided you want children and that the time is now. It’s a big life decision, and when the time comes for myself and my partner, I will definitely want to talk with my close friends about it.

          The conversation doesn’t have to be about raw dogging, instead it could be about planning for children. Many people plan for children in advance of getting pergenat.

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            If it comes up in conversation with close friends, absolutely let them know that you’re starting to plan for a child. But making it something to announce like it’s an occasion is very weird energy.

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            Choosing to have kids means you’re going to have a tiny human that you can shape and nurture into an incredible adult. The choices you make as a parent directly impact how your kid grows up, what they do professionally or for fun, their values and their moral compass. Its a huge responsibility but also its incredibly rewarding when you see the choices you made actively make your child into a better person. Every time you see your child make the right choice on their own based entirely on your earlier guidance, every achievement that they make, every little improvement in their capabilities

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              This is a really wholesome view, if only it were more common. The comment you responded to sure seems bitter, but I can see where they are coming from. Most people I know are carrying some level of trauma passed down from parents that did not fully consider the responsibilities they were taking on. Plenty of people have kids for selfish reasons and then fail to take responsibility for the negative ways they shape them. It sounds like you have been fortunate.

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            What? They can be a joy and a responsibility worth celebrating without being a trophy or martial[sic] aid.

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                the same range of emotions as many socially aware humans i suppose? empathy, annoyance, understanding, frustration, consideration etc. some parents are more skilled, some are less, usually just try to assume everyone is trying their best, then try my best, and go from there?

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                It depends on the people’s kid. Your parents kid for example seems like a dickhead.

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                I struggle to imagine being as selfish as you about being around children in public. Kids can be great, they can also be not great. They’re just people. If you can’t be around people in public, that’s a you problem, not everyone else’s.

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                  That’s my point children are people. Most parents don’t agree and refuse educate and teach them discipline to not be annoying which then snowballs thru the generations.

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        I think what both comics miss is that sex can be for a purpose other than straight up pleasure, it’s a means to an end. Also it’s very possible if someone says this that sex isn’t working very well for them in making a baby…and they might be doing things like IVF, etc.